Sexual Activities

This section explores things sexual things you can do — what they're like, tips and techniques for doing them, where to get more information about them, things to keep mind about them, and stuff like that. 

Don't take any of this as revealed truth — it's all based on our personal experience, experimentation and research, and is intended to serve as a few helpful suggestions as you try to make sense of your own lovely sexuality — and as they say, your mileage may vary...

If you find you have a different point of view and feel that other people could profit from hearing your perspective, please consider writing about it so that we can incorporate it into the site, and so that it can be of service to people who feel as you do. 

The whole point is that there are indeed paths you can follow through some of the dense thickets and scary darkness that each of encounters in exploring our own beautiful sexual wilderness. 

Types of activities

Solitary sex:  Having sex by yourself (often referred to as masturbating) is the best way to learn about your own sexual body.  Want to make beautiful music?  Well — practice that instrument!  And there are places that you may only want to go by yourself.  You may even want to consider incorporating solitary sex into your spiritual practice.

Dating advice:  Our take on dating may not always agree with what your parents told you, since much of it comes out of helping people enjoy public sexual ritual, but then you might be surprised. 

Techniques:  If sexual enjoyment is like good food, sexual techniques are like recipes.  They can be lovely, they can add to your enjoyment, and you certainly don't have to be intimidated by them.  They can sometimes be tricky, though, and it's worth keeping in mind how good simple, basic food can taste, especially when you're famished!

Exploring:  Is what turns you on the most the same as what it was five years ago?  For many people, the answer is no — our sexual interests keep moving around over the course of our lives.  Well, there's a lot of new territory out there, and as long as you approach exploration like any other kind of wilderness expedition, you can avoid most of the dangers.