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Selected Links and Resources
I'm sure we've left out some of the best resources here, simply out of
ignorance, so please help! Let us know the great books and links we've
missed.
Manuals, Guides and References
General Essays and Thoughts about Sex
Fear and Repression of Sex
Sex-Positive Feminism and Radical Sex
Sexual Behavior in Nature and Evolutionary Influences
Brain Chemistry: Sex, Aphrodisiacs and Mind Drugs
Sexual Orientations — Gay, Straight and Other
Psychological Perspectives on Sex
Sex and Sexual Archetypes in Human Cultures
Historical Perspectives on Sex
Perspectives on Spirituality
Sex and Religious History
Roots of Neo-Paganism
Achieving Orgasm
Tantric and Related Orgasm-Enhancement Techniques
Lone-sex (masturbation)
Anal Sex
Polyamory and Relationships
BDSM (Bondage, Discipline/Domination and Sado-Masochism)
Visual Erotica
Literary Erotica
Introductions for Teenagers
Losing Your Virginity
Manuals, Guides and References
Links
www.sexuality.org | This is one of the pre-eminent sites on the Web for getting straightforward, unembarrassed information. |
www.goodvibes.com | Good Vibrations was the first of the new, sex-positive sex shops, headquartered in San Francisco. The store itself is wonderful, and the site is rich with good information (it's not just an online store). |
www.siecus.org | The Sexuality Information and Education Council of the U.S. (SIECUS) is a national, nonprofit organization which affirms that sexuality is a natural and healthy part of living. |
sexuality.about.com | "What You Need to Know About Sexuality" — some fairly good information. |
Books
Boston Women's Health Book Collective | Our Bodies, Ourselves for the New Century: A Book by and for Women (Touchstone 1998). This is rightly a classic reference book, useful for both sexes. |
Joannides, Paul | Guide to Getting It On! America's Coolest & Most Informative Book About Sex For Adults of All Ages (3rd ed. Goofy Foot 2000). One of the most popular handbooks — very good on general attitudes, approaches and techniques, but much weaker on anything out of the ordinary. |
Winks, Cathy & Anne Semans | The Good Vibrations Guide to Sex (3rd ed. Cleis 2002). If you're only going to buy one book about sex, make it this one. It's nicely written, straightforward, and covers a huge amount of territory very well. |
General Essays and Thoughts about Sex
Books
Ackerman, Diane | A Natural History of Love (Random House 1994). |
Ackerman, Diane | A Natural History of the Senses (Random House 1990). |
Bright, Susie | Full Exposure: Opening up to your Sexual Creativity & Erotic Expression (Harper 1999). Susie Bright is the Mollie Ivins of sex, and I can't think of a higher compliment for an essayist. She's passionate, but funny too, with a deceptively simple conversational style, and she makes a big effort to be honest. Full Exposure is a slender but moving and informative personal sexual manifesto. |
Bright, Susie | Mommy's Little Girl: On Sex, Motherhood, Porn & Cherry Pie (Thunder's Mouth Press 2003). A series of essays, authentic and interesting, especially about being a parent. |
Bright, Susie | Susie Bright's Sexual Reality: A Virtual Sex World Reader ( 2000). |
Juska, Jane | A Round-Heeled Woman: My Late-Life Adventures in Sex and Romance (Villard 2003). An extraordinary and uplifting account of courage, integrity and its great rewards. |
Queen, Carol | Exhibitionism for the Shy: Show Off, Dress Up and Talk Hot (Down There 2002). A great book for accepting and overcoming embarrassment. |
Moore, Thomas | The Soul of Sex: Cultivating Life as an Act of Love (Harper 1998). As a psychotherapist and an ex-Catholic monk, Moore brings an interesting perspective to writing about the sacredness of sex. He has a good chapter on celibacy, and much insight into the sacredness of life in general. A lovely book, particularly for the spiritually inclined who wonder how sex fits in. |
Tisdale, Sallie | Talk Dirty to Me: an Intimate Philosophy of Sex (Doubleday 1994). Sallie Tisdale is a gifted writer, and this is an intelligent, readable, personal book. It's especially helpful if you feel embarrassed about how interested you find yourself in sex. |
Fear and Repression of Sex
Books
Heins, Marjorie | Not in Front of the Children: "Indecency," Censorship, and the Innocence of Youth (Hill & Wang 2001). |
Heins, Marjorie | Sex, Sin, and Blasphemy: A Guide to America's Censorship Wars (2nd ed. New Press 1998). |
Levine, Judith & Jocelyn M. Elders | Harmful to Minors: The Perils of Protecting Children from Sex (U. Minnesota 2002). |
Strossen, Nadine | Defending Pornography: Free Speech, Sex, and the Fight for Women's Rights (NYU Press 2000). |
Sex-Positive Feminism and Radical Sex
Links
www.ifeminists.com | "...home for individualist feminism on the net." Honors people's right and power to make decisions about their sexuality. |
Books
Califia, Pat | Public Sex: The Culture of Radical Sex (Cleis Press 1994). No one has ever matched Pat Califia for articulating the unthinkable for the rest of us who want to know but are scared to go there. A brave, honest, intelligent writer. |
Chancer, Lynn S. | Reconcilable Differences: Confronting Beauty, Pornography and the Future of Feminism (U.California 1998). |
Chancer, Lynn S. | Sadomasochism in Everyday Life: The Dynamics of Power and Powerlessness (Rutgers 1992). |
Millet, Catherine | The Sexual Life of Catherine M. (Grove Press 2002). Such a sexy book! A woman's power, casually revealed, to indulge her sexuality on her own terms, outrageously. |
Muscio, Inga | Cunt: A Declaration of Independence (Seal Press 1998). |
Nagle, Jill (ed.) | Whores and Other Feminists (Routledge 1997). |
Queen, Carol | Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture (Cleis Press 1997). |
Sexual Behavior in Nature and Evolutionary Influences
Links
Books
Angier, Natalie | The Beauty and the Beastly (Houghton Mifflin 1995). |
Bagemihl, Bruce | Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity (St. Martins 1999). This book is a mine of carefully researched and documented information about same-sex attraction in nature. If the subject interests you at all, you should check it out (though it's not a light read at over 700 pages). |
Blackmore, Susan | The Meme Machine (Oxford 1999). A cogent presentation of the "meme" theory first proposed by Richard Dawkins. |
Buss, David M. | The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating (Basic Books 1994). Buss is sound in many respects, but as Natalie Angier complains in Women, he is also something of the male-chauvinist version of a Social Darwinist — he's happy to jump to convenient over-simplifications that he believes to be manifest truths. |
Diamond, Jared | The Third Chimpanzee: The Evolution and Future of the Human Animal (Harper 1992). |
Diamond, Jared | Why is Sex Fun? The Evolution of Human Sexuality (Basic Books 1997). |
Fisher, Helen | Anatomy of Love: A Natural History of Mating, Marriage and Why We Stray (Fawcett Books 1995). If you only read one of the books listed here, read this one: it's well-written and gives you a whole new basis for understanding your animal heritage. |
Fisher, Helen | The First Sex (Ballantine 1999). |
Forsyth, Adrian | A Natural History of Sex (Firefly Books 2001). |
Gribbin, John & Jeremy Cherfas | The Mating Game: In Search of the Meaning of Sex (2nd ed. Barnes and Noble 2001). |
Judson, Olivia | Dr. Tatiana's Sex Advice to All Creation: The Definitive Guide to the Evolutionary Biology of Sex (Metropolitan Books 2002). |
Leblanc, Steven A. | Constant Battles: The Myth of the Peaceful, Noble Savage (St. Martins 2003). Underlines the same point that Jared Diamond makes in The Third Chimpanzee, that humans resemble many other animals in overrunning available resources and then suffering devastating population collapses. This is a very valuable book and an easy read. |
Miller, Geoffrey F. | The Mating Mind: How Sexual Choice Shaped the Evolution of Human Nature (Random House 2000). |
Ridley, Matt | The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature (MacMillan 1994). |
Rodgers, Joann E. | Sex, A Natural History (W.H.Freeman 2001). |
Roughgarden, Joan | Evolution's Rainbow: Diversity, Gender and Sexuality in Nature and People (U.C. Berkeley 2004). |
Shlain, Leonard | Sex, Time and Power: How Women's Sexuality Shaped Human Evolution (Viking 2003). |
Sillén-Tulberg, Birgitta & Anders P. Møller | "The Relationship between Concealed Ovulation and Mating Systems in Anthropoid Primates: a Phylogenetic Analysis" (in American Naturalist, Volume 141, 1993) An important paper on cryptic ovulation. |
Sykes, Bryan | Adam's Curse: A Future Without Men (Norton 2003). |
Sykes, Bryan | The Seven Daughters of Eve (Norton 2001). |
Wells, Spencer | The Journey of Man (Princeton 2002). |
Brain Chemistry: Sex, Aphrodisiacs and Mind Drugs
Links
SexualEnhancement.Org | One of the entry points into Serge Kreutz's web sites about pro-sexual pharmaceuticals and natural aphrodisiacs. |
The Vaults of Erowid | A treasure-house of information: "Documenting the complex relationship between humans and psychoactives, Erowid.org is an online library of information about psychoactive plants and chemicals and related topics. The information on the site is a compilation of the experiences, words, and efforts of hundreds of individuals including users, parents, health professionals, doctors, therapists, chemists, researchers, teachers, and lawyers." |
Books
Crenshaw, Theresa L. | The Alchemy of Love and Lust (Putnam 1996). Crenshaw is an intelligent and articulate researcher who has devoted her career to investigating the hormonal determinants of sexual emotions and responses. As she would readily admit, our understanding is still in its early infancy, but it's certainly interesting to get a picture of what little information we actually do have. |
Crenshaw, Theresa L. & James P. Goldberg | Sexual Pharmacology (W.W.Norton 1996). This large volume serves to define the narrow limits of what we know so far. |
Fisher, Helen | Why We Love: The Nature and Chemistry of Romantic Love (Holt 2004). |
LeVay, Simon | The Sexual Brain (MIT 1994). |
Morgan, Adrian | Toads and Toadstools: The Natural History, Folklore, and Cultural Oddities of a Strange Association (Celestial Arts 1995). |
Stafford, Peter | Psychodelics Encyclopedia (3rd ed., Ronin Publishing 1992). |
Sexual Orientations — Gay, Straight and Other
Books
Bagemihl, Bruce | Biological Exuberance: Animal Homosexuality and Natural Diversity (St. Martins 1999). This book is a mine of carefully researched an documented information about same-sex attraction in nature. If the subject of homosexuality is of any interest to you, you should check it out (though it's not a light read at over 700 pages). |
Roughgarden, Joan | Evolution's Rainbow: Diversity, Gender and Sexuality in Nature and People (U.C. Berkeley 2004). |
Psychological Perspectives on Sex
Books
Bader, Michael J. | Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies (St.Martin's 2002). A fascinating and (to me) convincing approach to explaining the psychology of fantasies and all their lovely weirdness. I do feel, though, that Bader as a psychotherapist pays too little attention to physiological components of his patients' kinks. |
Kaufman, Gershen | Shame: The Power of Caring (Schenkman 1992). One of the few serious examinations of shame and embarrassment out there; based on Silvan Tomkins' theory of affect, that identifies shame as a core human emotion. |
Sex and Sexual Archetypes in Human Cultures
Books
Albert, Alexa | Brothel: Mustang Ranch and Its Women (Ballantine 2001). A lovely and unvarnished exercise in social research. Ms. Albert overcomes preconceptions that many of us share about the subject of her research (legal prostitution in Nevada). Through several years worth of observation, we learn with her to understand things in a more complex way. |
Eisler, Riane | The Chalice and the Blade (Harper 1988). This book should make you think. Don't get it for what it tells you is true (a good deal of the scholarship is dubious), but because it will call into question assumptions you may not even know you have. |
Fuller, Robert W. | Somebodies and Nobodies: Overcoming the Abuse of Rank (New Society 2003). Although this book doesn't deal directly with sex, it lays out our need for respect and personal dignity in a way that applies directly to how we manage our sexual relationships, and how they often go wrong. |
Ehrenreich, Barbara | Nickel and Dimed: On (Not) Getting By in America (Owl Books 2002). An articulate and chilling perspective on what it means to be poor in the U.S. today, when you're thinking about reproduction and population dynamics. |
Krause, Elizabeth L. | A Crisis of Births: Population Politics and Family-Making in Italy (Wadsworth 2004). A brilliant, readable and eye-opening account of how one modern culture mediates and honors fertility so as to maintain its stability and prosperity. |
Mead, Margaret | Male and Female (New York 1949). Margaret Mead may no longer be the reigning queen of anthropology (to the delight of many patriarchs), but don't let that stop you from reading her thought- provoking survey of cultural sex- role variations. |
Qualls-Corbett, Nancy | The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine (Inner City Books 1988). |
Shlain, Leonard | The Alphabet Versus the Goddess: The Conflict between Word and Image (Viking 1998). |
Historical Perspectives on Sex
A great deal of fascinating scholarship has been published in the last
twenty years that relates to sex in history. The tiny selection below is
just a compendium of the titles we happen to have had time to read and have
found interesting — so please send us your own favorites, with a
brief description/review that will help others get a feeling for the
book.
Links
Books
Antelme, Ruth Schumann & Stephane Rossini | Sacred Sexuality in Ancient Egypt: The Erotic Secrets of the Forbidden Papyrus (Inner Traditions 2001). |
Burton, Richard F. (trans.) | The Perfumed Garden of the Cheikh Nefzaoui (Penguin 1999). |
Clarke, John R. | Looking at Lovemaking: Constructions of Sexuality in Roman Art 100 B.C. – A.D. 250 (U. California Press 2001). |
Clarke, John R. | Roman Sex: 100 BC - AD 250 (Abrams 2003). |
Davison, James | Courtesans and Fishcakes: The Consuming Passions of Classical Athens (St. Martin's 1997). |
Diamond, Jared | Guns, Germs and Steel: The Fates of Human Societies (W.W. Norton 1999). |
Foster, John L. (trans.) | Love Songs of the New Kingdom (U. Texas Press 1992). |
Friedman, David M. | A Mind of its Own: A Cultural History of the Penis (Free Press 2001). |
Johns, Catherine | Sex or Symbol? Erotic Images of Greece and Rome (British Museum 1989). |
Keuls, Eva | Reign of the Phallus (University of California Press 1985). |
Kiefer, Otto | Sexual Life in Ancient Rome (London 1934, Dorset Press 1993). |
Knight, Richard & Thomas Wright | A History of Phallic Worship (1786, 1866, Dorset Press 1992). |
Laqueur, Thomas W. | Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation (Zone Books 2003). |
Laqueur, Thomas W. | Making Sex: Body and Gender from the Greeks to Freud (Harvard 1992). |
Meador, Betty De Shong | Inanna, Lady of Largest Heart: Poems of the Sumerian High Priestess Enheduanna (U. Texas Press 2000). |
Pomeroy, Sarah B. | Goddesses, Whores, Wives, and Slaves: Women in Classical Antiquity (Schocken 1975, 1995). |
Pomeroy, Sarah B. | Spartan Women (Oxford 2002). |
Qualls-Corbett, Nancy | The Sacred Prostitute: Eternal Aspect of the Feminine (Inner City Books 1988). |
Rocke, Michael | Forbidden Friendships : Homosexuality and Male Culture in Renaissance Florence (Oxford 1996). A startling revelation: the majority of Renaissance Florence's male population seems to have experienced gay sex. |
Ruggiero, Guido | Binding Passions: Tales of Magic, Marriage, and Power at the End of the Renaissance (Oxford 1993). |
Ruggiero, Guido | The Boundaries of Eros: Sex Crime and Sexuality in Renaissance Venice (Oxford 1985). |
Taylor, Timothy | The Prehistory of Sex: Four Million Years of Human Sexual Culture (Bantam 1996). |
Umar ibn Muhammad, al-Nafzawi | The Perfumed Garden of the Cheikh Nefzaoui (Penguin 1999). |
Wolkstein, Diane & Samuel N. Kramer | Inanna, Queen of Heaven and Earth: Her Stories and Hymns from Sumer (Harper 1983). |
Perspectives on Spirituality
Links
Books
Ackerman, Diane | Deep Play (Random House 1999). |
Lewis, I. M. | Ecstatic Religion: A Study of Shamanism and Spirit Possession (3rd ed. Routledge 2003). |
Sex and Religious History
Books
Camphausen, Rufus C. | The Encyclopedia of Sacred Sexuality (Inner Traditions 1999). |
Mann, A. T. & Jane Lyle | Sacred Sexuality (Barnes & Noble 1995). |
Pagels, Elaine | The Gnostic Gospels (Random House 1979). |
Pagels, Elaine | The Origin of Satan (Random House 1995). |
Robinson, James M. (ed.) | The Nag Hammadi Library in English (Harper 1990). |
Vermes, Geza | The Complete Dead Sea Scrolls in English (Penguin 1962). |
Roots of Neo-Paganism
Books
Hutton, Ronald | The Pagan Religions of the Ancient British Isles: Their Nature and Legacy (Blackwell 1991). |
Hutton, Ronald | The Rise and Fall of Merry England: The Ritual Year 1400-1700 (Oxford 1994). |
Hutton, Ronald | The Stations of the Sun: A History of the Ritual Year in Britain (Oxford 1996). |
Hutton, Ronald | The Triumph of the Moon: A History of Modern Pagan Witchcraft (Oxford 1999). |
Leland, Charles | Etruscan Roman Remains (1982, Phoenix Press 2003). |
Starhawk | The Spiral Dance: A Rebirth of the Ancient Religion of the Great Goddess (Harper 1979). |
Achieving Orgasm
Books
Barbach, Lonnie G. | For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality (Anchor 1975). A highly recommended book if you're looking for your first orgasm. |
Heiman, Julia & LoPiccolo, Joseph & Palladini, David | Becoming Orgasmic: A Sexual and Personal Growth Program for Women (Fireside 1987). Another well-regarded first-orgasm book. |
Dodson, Betty | Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving (Three Rivers 1996). A classic, uplifting celebration of masturbation. |
Davies, Dido (as Rachael Swift) | How to Have an Orgasm... As Often As You Want (Carroll & Graf 1993). An articulate book built on personal experience. |
Tantric and Related Orgasm-Enhancement Techniques
There are so many, many books and tapes that tell you how to do
things, including the better manuals. Many borrow
from and build on tantric approaches. Be aware that different things work
for different people, and the same things work differently for the same person
at different times. Be very aware that not all the advice you encounter
will be right for you, and that some of the advice you'll find is probably not
much good for anyone.
The books listed here are among the less esoteric ones.
Books
Anand, Margo | The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers (Jeremy Tarcher 1989). This is the best place to start if you're interested in exploring tantric sexual techniques. |
Bakos, Susan Crain | Sexational Secrets: The Ultimate Guide for Erotic Know-How (St. Martins 1996). This a fairly superficial, journalistic book, with one great benefit: Ms. Bakos has taken all those expensive workshops and seminars, and reports back to you on her experiences. Not only does she give you a peek into each of them, but she also provides concise summaries of the techniques that are taught in them. This is probably a good book to check out before you commit a lot of money for a workshop! |
Brauer, Alan P. & Brauer, Donna J. | ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm (2nd ed. Warner 2001). Some people have had success with the Brauer approach; some haven't. |
Chia, Mantak | The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know (Harper 2000). Again, take this all with quite a bit of salt — Chia is a salesman. Nonetheless, some people have found his approach helpful. |
Henderson, Julie | The Lover Within: Opening to Energy in Sexual Practice (Station Hill 1986). A good introduction for Westerners to tantric spiritual attitudes to sex. |
Inkeles, Gordon | The New Sensual Massage (Bantam 1992). Massage is a complex art in itself. This book introduces some of the ways to tie its sensuality into sexual interactions. |
Lone-Sex / Masturbation
Links
JackinWorld | "The Ulitmate Male Masturbation Resource." A very nice, articulate, sex-positive site with lots of accurate and reassuring information. |
Books
Bennett, Paula & Vernon Rosario | Solitary Pleasures: The Historical, Literary and Artistic Discourses of Autoeroticism (Routledge 1995). |
Cornog, Martha | BIG Book of Masturbation (Down There Press 2003). |
Dodson, Betty | Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving (Three Rivers 1996). A classic, uplifting celebration of masturbation. |
Laqueur, Thomas W. | Solitary Sex: A Cultural History of Masturbation (Zone Books 2003). A sweeping, mildly rambling, but excellent history of attitudes towards masturbation. |
Stenger, Jean et al | Masturbation: The History of a Great Terror (Pagrave MacMillan 2001). |
Anal Sex
This is one area, like fisting, where research and preparation is really
useful. Fortunately, the good manuals can get you
started, and there are also some good specialized books and videos.
Videos
Bend Over Boyfriend | (Fatale Video 1998) Carol Queen and Robert Morgan have made a wonderful, sexy, unintimidating introduction to anal play for men (this is not your typical porn at all). |
Bend Over Boyfriend 2 | (S.I.R. Productions 2003) More things to try, for those who enjoyed the first video. |
Books
Brent, Bill | The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men (Cleis 2002). |
Morin, Jack | Anal Pleasure & Health: A Guide for Men and Women (3rd ed. Down There 2000). |
Taormino, Tristan | The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women (Cleis 1997). |
Polyamory and Relationships
Books
Anapol, Deborah M. | Polyamory, the New Love without Limits: Secrets of Sustainable Intimate Relationships (IntiNet Resource Center 1997). Another good recent book about polyamory and how to go about making it work. |
Constantine, Larry L. & Joan M. Constantine | Group Marriage: 'Marriages' of Three or More People, How and When They Work (Collier 1973). I remember with gratitude how reassuring and interesting this book was to me in 1975 when I was part of a serious four-way quasi-group-marriage. It's still an interesting read for polyamorous adventurers. |
Easton, Dossie & Catherine A. Liszt | The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities (Greenery 1997). This is rightly revered by many people as one of the best books ever about sex, even if you're not interested in polyamory. If you are, I've been an observer and active participant in polyamorous relationships for about thirty years now, and I found everything in The Ethical Slut beautifully expressed and right on target. |
Mystic Life | Spiritual Polyamory (iUniverse 2004). |
O'Neill, Nena & George O'Neill | Open Marriage: A New Life Style for Couples (Avon 1972). A best-seller from the early seventies, Open Marriage is a lot more serious and interesting than you might expect a popular book to be — still well worth the read. |
Rogers, Carl R. | Becoming Partners: Marriage and Its Alternatives (Delta 1972). Some older books like this one and the two following are still helpful, and informed by appealing idealism. Carl Rogers is wise, articulate and refreshingly modest. |
Thomas, Patti | Recreational Sex: An Insider's Guide to the Swinging Lifestyle (Peppermint 1997). Swinging is something else again. Some say it's polyamory lite for the straight world, but say what you will, joyful sex, close friendship and real love are common among swingers too. |
BDSM and Other Kinks
Links
www.altsex.org | AltSex is a Web site "dedicated to the exploration of the miracle of human sexuality, in all its wonder and diversity." |
Books
Easton, Dossie & Janet W. Hardy | The New Topping Book (Greenery 2003). |
Hardy, Janet W. & Dossie Easton | The New Bottoming Book (Greenery 2001). |
Miller, Phillip & Molly Devon & William A. Granzig | Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism (Mystic Rose Books 1995). A classic — a good place to start, but also useful for people who have been playing for a while. |
Wiseman, Jay | SM 101: A Realistic Introduction (Greenery 1998). |
Visual Erotica
Links
I don't know of a lot of really interesting visual erotica out there.
Galitsin's early work, mentioned below, inspired me to believe that you really
can take pictures that are both very sexy and that capture people's energy,
but I don't know much else to point to. Suggestions?
galitsin-news.com | When it comes to still pictures of naked women
in their late teens and early twenties, a Russian photographer, Grigorii
Galitsin, is one of my personal favorites. His relationship with his models
is clearly good, so they often seem completely present in the pictures,
looking confident, empowered and proud of their sexuality.
Unfortunately, his more recent work has become increasingly commercial in
response to the obsessions of classic porn consumers, and thus perhaps less
appealing (more focus on shaved pussies, for instance). Nonetheless, he
clearly knows how to connect with the strong personalities of his models. |
Met-Art.com | This is a large site that features the work of 50 or
more photographers, and beautiful young (18-25) models from all over the world.
The quality of the photography varies significantly, but there are some lovely images
on this site. My personal favorite among the photographers is a Canadian who goes
by Ronin. |
Pornotopia.com | This is a digital art and animation site featuring the work
of a couple, Karynna and Sagemon, who are both talented and uninhibited. As you can
tell if you read Karynna's "Discourses" in the Guest Tour of the site, they are also
intelligent and thoughtful about what they're trying to do. |
Books
Clarke, John R. | Roman Sex: 100 BC - AD 250 (Abrams 2003). |
Johns, Catherine | Sex or Symbol? Erotic Images of Greece and Rome (British Museum 1989). |
Stoller, Robert J. | Porn: Myths for the Twentieth Century (Yale University 1991). A fascinating, complex piece of what Stoller calls "urban ethnography." If you want a highly intelligent peek into the porn industry, this is an excellent place to start. |
Literary Erotica
Books
Burton, Richard F. (trans.) | The Perfumed Garden of the Cheikh Nefzaoui (Penguin 1999). |
Foster, John L. (trans.) | Love Songs of the New Kingdom (U. Texas Press 1992). |
Meador, Betty De Shong | Inanna, Lady of Largest Heart: Poems of the Sumerian High Priestess Enheduanna (U. Texas Press 2000). |
Umar ibn Muhammad, al-Nafzawi | The Perfumed Garden of the Cheikh Nefzaoui (Penguin 1999). |
Introductions for Teenagers
Links
Books
There are hundreds of more or less sanitized sex-for-teens books out
there, and then there's Hustler, Penthouse and Web porn, where so
many kids go for the "real" scoop (and if you think they can't find ways to get
access, you're dreaming).
So if you don't much like the attitudes reflected in mainstream porn (and I
can't say I do), a much better real-life alternative that my own kids liked is
the Omaha the Cat Dancer series of graphic novels. These depict all
kinds of sexual activity explicitly, positively and respectfully in the context
of believable characters, real emotions, and interesting plot. They show
exactly and graphically what people do in bed, straight and gay, but more
importantly they also show how people feel about it and how people behave while
doing those things. In other words, they're a pretty decent unexpurgated
introduction to the territory.
Waller, Reed & Kate Worley | The Collected "Omaha" the Cat Dancer Volumes 1-6 (Fantagraphics Books 1995). |
Losing Your Virginity
Links
Scarleteen | "Sex education for the real world — committed to delivering the best contemporary teen sex ed on the Net since 1998." |
Books
Sabino, Giuseppe | La Prima volta. Le adolescenti raccontano la loro iniziazione sessuale (Mondadori 1994). Often heart-wrenching narratives from all over Italy by girls about "losing their virginity." |
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